June 2023 Newsletter
Did you grow up wealthy, and would you consider your parents to be emotionally immature? If so, it’s not a coincidence!
6 Reasons Why Wealth Stunts Emotional Growth
1. Wealth buffers you from the consequences of your actions
Understanding your impact on others and having the chance to repair harm are essential ways you grow and mature. If you are buffered from your mistakes, you cannot learn from them.
2. Wealth allows you to avoid challenges
When you use wealth to pay people to do your responsibilities, or pay your way out of challenges, you lose your sense of resilience. It is in our most challenging moments that we discover who we really are and what we are capable of. Wealth can cause us to lose trust in ourselves and to become more fragile.
3. Wealth cuts you off from reality
When you live in a wealthy bubble it’s hard to be in touch with what life is actually like for most people. When everyone around you agrees with your ideas and beliefs, you don’t learn and grow. Privilege bubbles stunt emotional growth.
4. Wealth separates you from others
Wealth can cause you to mistrust people who are less wealthy (i.e. the majority of the world), unable to tell if people genuinely like you or if they want something from you. This makes it difficult to build secure, trusting relationships.
5. Wealth can prevent true intimacy
When you don’t depend on others materially, you are less likely to ask for help, rely on others, and experience the trust that people are dependable. You can ghost people or cut off relationships when they get hard without material consequence. Intimacy is a key way we develop emotional maturity, and without it, we become stunted.
6. Wealth can cause you to forget who you truly are
Growing up wealthy can give you an inflated sense of importance and the pressure to achieve. When you are so focused on individual success and maintaining power, you might make choices that compromise your values. Each time you compromise your integrity and ignore your intuition, you lose a small piece of yourself.
Growing up with emotionally unavailable parents creates a void that follows you into adulthood. You might try to fill the void with wealth, work, or romance, but it doesn't work. You might blame yourself for not feeling happier in your life because of your material privilege. It's normal to feel loneliness and dissatisfaction when you are denied one of the most important resources human beings need - emotional nurturance. Until you put the work into your own healing, you are vulnerable to repeating the cycle of replacing love with money.
Miraculously, you are not doomed to a life of loneliness. Healing from the impacts of emotional neglect will help you find emotional satisfaction in your life and allow you to break the cycle of replacing love with money.
There is a community of those who relate to your experience and who want to heal alongside you.
